Scott L. Fenton, PsyD
A presence-based Therapy for those interested in inner exploration, compassionate-awareness and a life of fully being who they really are.
As you sit, right now, you may notice your suffering. All are suffering to a greater or lesser extent. The degrees may change for everyone, sometimes drastically, depending on their circumstances, either internal or external. Some are more aware of, and honest with, themselves and others about their suffering, but suffering we all are. Suffering is the result of habitually focusing our awareness on our thoughts instead of our direct experience. Try this experiment, if you like: close your eyes and hold your hands out in front of you so they are not touching anything, like a surgeon entering the operating room. Focus your attention on your hands. Can you tell that you have hands, even though you can't see them or touch them? How can you tell that you have hands? Just for a moment, be with that experience of your hands. This is not an imagining of your hands, but with the direct experience of your hands. If you like, you can incorporate other parts of your body, like your feet, arms, legs, pelvis, belly, chest, back, face and head. Or you can just stay with your hands. You might notice that the mind wants to grab your attention quite a lot during this experiment, but also notice that when you are directly experiencing your hands, there is a space, a pause, perhaps just for a fraction of a second, or just one heart beat, between the thoughts. A peaceful space. There may still be pain, either physical or emotional, but the suffering, the STORY, quiets or at least slows down. For a more complete description of this practice, check-out Eckhart Tolle on Youtube.
This is the basis of mindfulness, or presence-based therapy. I don't really
in theThe solution is not to "quiet the mind," at least, not directly. The solution is to focus the spotlight of our attention from the incessant, repetitive thoughts (which usually have to do with trying to get what we want and avoid what we don't want), to a direct experience of the present moment. More specifically, to attend to the immediate experience of your body.